Visiting Venus

Jaden,

In my previous letter I told you that women can be understood and that I would later expand upon learning the woman dialect. There is book titled, "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus." Well, let's talk a little about how to understand Venutian, and then we'll move on to other things I want to pass on.

Keep this phrase in your heart and mind, whether single or married. "Pay attention to the woman God puts in front of you." Let's break that down.

PAY ATTENTION. Here's the language breakdown. Most guys don't understand women because they don't pay attention to the words she's saying, the context in which they are said, or how she feels when she's talking. Hearing the words she says is a good start, but in order to understand the implications, look for context. That is, get perspective to see what is happening around you, around her, and how she's feeling or where she is coming from. If you don't know, ask. Seriously. Ask her. There will be times when you have no idea what she's implying and the best thing you can do is ask her. Communication is key to relationships. Okay, now for the confusing part. Sometimes women want to be a mystery and leave you guessing on what they're thinking. This is a sign that they just want to be pursued. If you find yourself in this situation, don't get confused and frustrated, pursue her! Because persuing her means you're giving her attention. You don't have to understand this part, just go with it. We'll press on.

Next ...TO THE WOMAN... Look at it. THE WOMAN. Singular. One woman. Your love is not meant to be shared with more than one woman. While you may show love to more than one woman through the course of your life, when you pursue a woman for marriage, that is where 100% of your love must go. Never share the love for your wife with another woman despite how tempting or promising the offer. May your love for God fuel your decisions and drive your love for your wife.

Finally ...GOD PUTS IN FRONT OF YOU. Make sure that the woman you date is a Godly woman. Make sure God has a hand in your interest with each other. There will be women who come in and out of your life, some will capture your heart, and some will break it. But before you pursue a girl, make sure that she shares your values and your faith. It's hard to be faithful when you don't have a faith to start with.

So when you find her, make her laugh. When you pursue her, pursue her heart. When you take her out, pay for her without expectation. When you take her home, leave quickly. ...and one day... when you make her your wife, make her a priority.

Unconditionally,
Dad